This is not a list where it’s all or nothing—that is, in order to be a disciple, all of these ideas need to be in place.
We’ll be placing unrealistic expectations on our relationship that can only be fulfilled by God.
It’s a wonderful thing to fall in love and find someone with whom we can share our lives.
Knowing Jesus intimately is critical if we want to know what authentic, life-giving expressions of love, sex, and relationships look like.
If we’re not anchoring our heart’s deepest hopes and longings in Jesus, our romantic relationships will always end up disappointing and frustrating us.
Those who have taken to heart even one or two of these principles have told me that it has had a dramatically positive effect on their life, and has helped immensely in the process of controlling their negative sexual habits and impulses.
It’s easy to give Jesus priority status when there’s no competition.
When we start dating, however, it’s common for many of us to slowly channel the energy that we’ve been investing in our relationship with Him into our newfound love.
But Jesus isn’t our relational back-up plan, someone we put first until someone better comes along.
That’s just the way our relationship is.” No relationship is perfect.
Each one has its fault lines and issues, but there comes a point when a challenging relationship becomes a destructive one, and when abusive patterns have emerged that line has been crossed. If we don’t identify and end the abusive relationship until it has run its course, we will be heartbroken and devastated.
All of us go through a stage where we assume we’re a boyfriend or girlfriend away from having it all.