When moving in together, "fairness is key to successful cohabitation.Each person should pay an equal percentage of their income," says Judith A. D., healthy-relationship specialist at the Boston Center for Adult Education.Or if she offers, let her treat you or pay for her own share." Thoughtfulness goes a long way, it also helps you save money.
This includes being a decision maker, says Brooke Carsner, a professional matchmaker at Intuitive Matchmaking. "A successful woman wants someone who can help her celebrate her success, not someone whom she has to defend it to." If she seems to like the idea of stripping you of your manhood, well, you have to decide whether or not you are into that sort of thing.
Just because your bank account isn't the same size as hers does not mean she can treat you like the help.
"If she loves weekend trips to tropical paradises, turn your apartment into a beach shack and whip up some fruity umbrella drinks."Just because she's banking, doesn't mean you should be a baby—or a burden.
"Take the lead and play a traditional male role in the relationship in other ways, like planning dates and opening doors," says Jennifer Kelman, author of .
And if anything is more emasculating than dating a woman who makes more money than you, it's dumping her Don't let financial differences become the elephant in the relationship.
If it bothers you that she always wants to go to fancy restaurants and expects you to pay, say something.Are you taking his whole game plan into account when you’re judging his earning potential? An ambitious guy with a great idea can go really far! She’s one of my best friends and one of my role models. And she was wondering if I thought she should get serious, and maybe even marry, a man who makes less than she does.And it’s a very rare thing when she comes to me for advice. Well, I had some thoughts for her that I thought I’d share with you all too, hoping they’d help you too.Standards and care do not equate to dollars and cents.