Although I understand some differences to be deal-breakers (vastly oppositional religious beliefs or political leanings come to mind), I can't understand why the difference between gay or straight and bisexal is such a no-go for so many.
Model and TV star Amber Rose once told Complex, “I’m extremely open with my sexuality. An October nationally-representative study of social attitudes from researchers at Indiana University found that “all participants’ attitudes were generally more positive toward bisexual women than bisexual men.” Even though attitudes toward bisexual people as a whole were in the negative-to-neutral range, that gendered difference was still statistically significant.
I definitely find beauty in everybody whether they’re heavy-set, super skinny, if they’re white, black, Indian, Asian, Spanish.”The revelation that Rose, herself bisexual, would not consider dating a bi man— first highlighted by on Thursday—came toward the tail end of a new episode of the revamped Loveline radio show, a long-running relationship and dating advice program made famous by former host and reality TV star Dr. (As Donaghue later reminded her, the sheer number of people on the planet means that there is more than enough “competition” for anyone, regardless of orientation.)“Maybe! But after Donaghue prodded her for a few more minutes—prompting Rose to reveal that she has been rejected by men because of her own bisexuality—she finally opened up: “Maybe I’m not secure enough to be with a man that likes other men because I would feel like when he’s out with his boys, it’s just more of a moment.”The painfully honest conversation perfectly illustrated the stigma that bisexual men still face in the dating world, with Donaghue challenging Rose to explain what, exactly, she meant by the term “uncomfortable.” Rose struggled to piece together a clear answer and promised to revisit the subject in next week’s episode of Loveline, saying that she “can’t fully articulate it right now.”One member of the Facebook audience, in particular, elicited a strong reaction from the hosts by writing, “This is a problem with people accepting bisexuality in women and not men.” And although it would be a stretch to claim that bisexual women are socially accepted, the commenter was certainly onto something: bisexual men are especially disliked.
The whole time I thought, It was childish, but the feeling is understandable: He was clearly attracted to something I would never be able to offer him, and I feared that unmet desire would cause him to seek satisfaction elsewhere.
First of all, porn is fantasy, and although there’s very little I won’t try once (or twice), I to try in real life.
At most, it's only evidence that the person cheated and is therefore not presently cut out for monogamous dating. Many gay guys (myself included) claim to be bisexual as a sort of "baby step" out of the closet.
We’re too scared to swing the door all the way open with a fabulous "We're here!" But unfortunately for my ex as well as for all the other bisexual men and women out there, the straight and gay people who use a bisexual identity as a "halfway house" contribute to the widespread negative notion that anyone who identifies as bi is actually a flimsy, half-hearted gay man or lesbian.It's one reason why so many bisexuals — my ex included — feel so excluded from the LGBT movement.When Donaghue asked her what she would do if her current boyfriend came out as bisexual, Rose speculated that she might ask him if he was “going to see other men behind [her] back.”There’s not much distance between that reaction and the “layover on the way to Gaytown” theory of bisexuality.It also seems to be tied to one of the stereotypes Cruz highlighted, namely that bisexual people are “inherently promiscuous, or they’re cheaters who are unable to be monogamous.” (As health researcher Sean Cahill noted in a report for the National LGBTQ Task Force, that stereotype is a myth: “Most bisexuals describe themselves as monogamous in their committed relationships.”)Ultimately, though, Rose’s sex life has been publicly dissected enough, whether it’s a tabloid calling her a “freak” for dating a transgender man, ex-husband Wiz Khalifa publicly airing details about their relationship, or Kanye West slut-shaming her on Twitter. But if more women took the time to do some rigorous self-examination about their aversion to being with bisexual men—on a radio show or otherwise—the dating world might get a little more tolerable for a struggling sexual minority.Although differences can be deal-breakers, a difference in sexual orientation doesn't need to be.