And according to a Facebook study of its users conducted last fall, San Francisco rates highest among major American cities on the ratio of single men to single women.
Matchmaking service the Dating Ring has even launched a crowdfunded campaign to send New York's single women to meet all of San Francisco's "eligible bachelors." You want numbers? That's the (ballpark) number of men who have approached me, a single 30-year-old woman, since I moved here almost two years ago.
In person, she exudes an aura of health, luxury and romance.
Even in e-mail, answering follow-up questions from a reporter, Andersen starts every note with "Dear" and ends with "Warmly, Amy." In a world of expedient movers and shakers, her old-fashioned etiquette is a welcome novelty - as is her turning down offers of a reality TV show: "I am actually very private," Andersen said.
"Same with my husband and my clients." Yet Andersen has no qualms discussing her own path to love. Her process helped to weed out the nutsos." Andersen's hands-on process includes a meticulous client assessment and one-on-one meeting that can cost as much as $600, irrespective of whether Andersen agrees to take the applicant on as a client.
She often empathizes with clients as she talks about her own string of relationships before friends introduced her to her husband, Alex Gould, a venture capitalist and Stanford economics instructor. If accepted, the client can either become part of a pool of daters - with no guarantee that a match will be made - or become a premium ($20,000) or VIP client ($50,000-$100,000) to get customized searches.
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Among singletons of a certain net worth in the Bay Area tech world, Amy Andersen is known as the Cupid of Silicon Valley.
Despite loads of single men, getting a date is a no-man's land. "I'd forgotten what it was like to be flirted with," says Kink and Code blogger Emma Mc Gowan, 27, who noticed it during a recent visit to New York.
"I can't get over how reflexively men flirt in New York." Forget flirting; it sometimes seems as if guys don't see gals, period. It's easy to blame smartphones for replacing the normalcy of spontaneous face-to-face interaction.
At first, as women do, I internalized the problem ("the glasses are distracting"; "I'm going to the wrong places").