Miriam Gray endured 13 years of upheaval and heartache before concluding that it had all been worth it.During that time, she had moved 100 miles from the home she loved and spent a decade eschewing all men for fear of having her heart broken again.Over 63 per cent say that getting older, with grown-up children who are financially independent, gives them a chance to pursue their dreams and do things they've always wanted to.
'Initially, it was devastating to be single in my 40s.
Give or take a few sporadic dates, I spent more than a decade on my own.
When AARP, the largest membership organisation for the over-50s in the U.
S., polled 2,500 single women over 45, myths exploded like fireworks.
Counsellor Keren Smedley says: 'So many women say to me that it's lonelier being within a lousy relationship than being on their own.' And it is these women - who have been in unhappy relationships and have chosen to leave them - who often recover more quickly from divorce later in life because the grieving has been done by the time the marriage is finally over.
The AARP survey also contradicted the belief that as women get older they want to slow down and get a few more cats.
It was only in my 50s that I started dating properly and another four years before I met Mark on a dating website, uk.' Miriam is certainly not alone in facing these challenges.
There has been a seismic shift in the institution of marriage.
We share interests like going to the theatre, travelling and cooking.
'But I had to go through the mill to find happiness.
My husband and I divorced in 1996 after he left me for one of my work colleagues.