There's no better way to get your point across to your partner, than sitting down and addressing the issues head on.
It's tough, but if you're looking to have a successful relationship, you have to do the hard work it takes to keep the ship afloat. Barton Goldsmith, award winning therapist and author, shared some sound trust-building advice with us straight from his latest book, and beyond.
Sit facing your partner so they know they have your undivided attention. When you're gearing up to have a serious talk with your lover, set a tone of togetherness by holding hands. Being open and honest about your unspoken thoughts and feelings helps to ensure physical and emotional fidelity," he says.
If you can trust your partner and allow them to flourish outside of the relationship, you will ultimately flourish together as a pair too." Honesty ultimately is the key to build trust in a relationship.
Be honest with yourself and your partner and your relationship will strengthen each day.
"The classic criticism might be to say 'you work too much, you're never there, you prefer your work to our relationship,' but if you are honest with yourself, what you are really feeling in this situation is vulnerability. Building trust in a relationship is a two way street.
Instead say, 'when you're not here I miss you.'" Your choice of words is extremely important in expressing your true feelings. In order to have an honest relationship with your partner, you must also be ready to accept their honesty, even if it is a criticism of you.
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If you have any questions, hints or tips about building trust in a relationship then please comment below or email us at [email protected] Salama Marine trained at the Paris College of Psychological Practitioners, and is now a registered Psychologist helping people with their interpersonal relationships in the realm of love, sex and marriage.
But, to be honest also means voicing your own feelings without fear of be vulnerable.
Salama gives the example of being disappointed that your partner is not present enough because he or she works too hard.
Salama advises that, "we set our own opinions and not the opinions influenced by our culture or our family." By understanding our own opinions on issues such as relationships, marriage, raising children etc., we will then find it easier to be honest when these topics arise in conversation with our partners. The most common example is the famous 'I love you'.